The Bad Stuff Sticks?

Today is a very special day for me.  I am honoured to have a blogger that I have followed and looked up to for sometime now honour with writing a post for me.  Today Corinne Rodrigues from Everyday Gyaan has agreed to write a post for my blog. 

Corinne is one of the very first bloggers that I connected with when I first started trying to grow my blog.  From the first time I read her blog I was hooked.  I love her positive outlook on life and her wonderful ability for reflection.  In addition, while designing the look of my blog Corinne was instrumental in more ways that even she knows.  She offered her advice many times on different designs I was working with but I also used her blog as a template when designing mine.  I am very excited for todays post and I hope you all have time to check out her website as well, I think you will enjoy it just as much as me.

Everyday Gyaan

Without any further adieu.......

THE BAD STUFF STICKS? 

Aaron and I 'met' recently and from the very first connection I was amazed by how positive he was. "Here's  someone I could learn a lot from", I thought. And I was right. Aaron continues to surprise me with his outlook and now more recently with his captivating photographs. It's an honor to write a post for your blog, Aaron. Thanks for asking.

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  Every time I happen upon "Pretty Woman" on television I can't help watching the movie to the end. There's just something about the movie that captivates me. I feel the same way about 'My Fair Lady' - which is more or less along the same lines. I think the story of the underdog getting a break and making the most of it and winning the 'hero' over by just being herself, that gets me.

Anyway, it was only last week that I watched 'Pretty Woman' again (!!) and that's the first time these lines struck me:

Vivian: People put you down enough, you start to believe it.

Edward: I think you… are a very bright, very special woman.

Vivian: The bad stuff is easier to believe. You ever notice that? 

The bad stuff is easier to believe.......and I thought to myself 'Is it really?'  

A few years ago, I would have said an unequivocal 'Yes, it is!". 

But now I say the bad stuff is easier to believe when you suffer from low self-esteem.  When you don't think highly of yourself you don't believe anyone else can. So for example, if someone says to you "Oh  you look so pretty/handsome", you give the credit to your hairstylist or the place where you bought your clothes from. You find it difficult to say a sincere "Thank you."  In other words, compliments and positive feedback doesn't 'stick' with you. 

On the other hand, when someone says things that aren't very pleasant, they're easy to believe because it is a reinforcement of your beliefs about yourself. 

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Vivian had an Edward to 'rescue' her and help her to see herself as she really was.   Are you waiting for an Edward to come along? Or are you going to rescue yourself? Fall in love with yourself and soon you'll find that the bad stuff doesn't 'stick' anymore!

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