Have you ever heard the token phrase, "Cancer was the best thing that happened to me"? I have done a post called "the Lucky ones" that talked about one of my first inspirations in dealing with my cancer. It haven't read it or forget check it out here The Lucky Ones
Before I got sick I used to hear this line and always wonder what the hell the person was talking about. I thought the person must either be crazy or on drugs because there was no way that getting cancer was the best thing that could happen to them. Well I am here to tell you that I am one of the converted.
Now you must be thinking I must be on drugs or crazy. Well I am on drugs lots of em! ;) But that isn't the reason I agree with cliche. I would never wish anyone to go through this battle as it is not easy. But I thought I would share with you why I think cancer survivors think having cancer was the best thing to happen to them.
The first reason is they won the battle. Make no mistake going through the treatments is a battle. In fact it is probably the biggest challenge a person will ever face because it is physically, emotionally, and mentally daunting all at the same time. So why would someone continue to have this view in the face of this? They won the battle. Lets face it. You rarely ever hear the thoughts and insights of people that lost the battle with cancer. You hear of the people and that they lost their battle but it often happens too fast for them to share a lot of their thoughts and reflections. So most of the time when you do hear opinions on fighting cancer it is from survivors that won their battle. And as humans nothing makes us feel better than the sense of accomplishment. What could make you have a better sense of accomplishment than overcoming the biggest challenge you will ever face? I am willing to bet not much ;)
The second reason and more popular reason why people look at cancer as a blessing is it has given them a second chance. The whole cancer process opened their eyes that life is truly short and unexpected and that they need to make the most of their days.
Well those are my thoughts on why people view it as a blessing instead of a curse. I would love to know what you think? Is there another reason why it might be a blessing?
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i agree with you totaly aaron it is not a curse ,it is the most beautiful eye opening thing to happen...before i got sick i went day to day doing anything i wanted to...but when this happen to me it open my eyes ,i saw things in a differant light ,for the very first time in my life i saw the sky,trees,moon,daylight,night time all there things are beautiful and it was the best thing to ever happen to me ,God gave me a gift of seeing for the very first time with my eyes,seeing things in a differant light...people say to me you must have done something for god to give you cancer ..and theres people are people that so call believe in god that have told me this..yet they forget GOD himself gave his only son ,jesus to be crucified to save sinners and i see things like this ,jesus suffered for us and i think i can injure sufferig just for him ..the only thing i must say i hate about cancer ,family friends ,they stay by your side or treat you like you are nothing to them ,like mine are doing that to me ,its like i have a curse to them...but what they dont relize they have done is make me so strong to say to them i will not let this bet me and i will not die :-)
ReplyDeleteI am so happy you agree. It is a wonderfully enlightening experience when you first start seeing things for the first time. You just can't comprehend how you didn't see all their beauty before.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry to hear that you have had to endure this terrible disease but you sound like you have the perfect attitude. You should check out my two posts:
The Cancer Ward's Two Types of People - http://www.aaronoutward.com/2010/11/cancer-wards-two-types-of-people.html
THe 4 P's of Positivity - http://www.aaronoutward.com/2011/01/positivity-is-spelt-with-4-ps.html
It is a shame that you have lost some close ones going through this process. But I think that is a natural occurence. Some people can't handle dealing with the disease. I would harbour no ill feelings to them and focus on how blessed you are that it has brought you and your loved ones that much closer :)